games.
thursday morning and so they have begun. the moving of pieces, the plotting of strategies and the reviewing of game plans. it's like a game of chess but i'd rather use american football as an analogy. take it as it is, two teams, each with their own 'special units': attacking lines and the defensive ones.
every step, every move, every decision is calculated to maximise its effect. to attack blindly will merely lead to a quick counter. a defensive approach will lead to one being slow in attack and though biding his time, he eventually wilts under the pressure and loses.
it's the same when going in a relationship. the courting phase is a game of wits, feelings and decisions. then comes the phase when the relationship is stable. the football phase. getting to know each other's weaknesses, learning to live with it, giving in to one another and living with each other's quirks. and in the event there's a breakup, not one, but both parties are hurt. perhaps one may deny it but surely both will be hurt. and so the mind games start again, each blaming one another and trying to find a solution to things for an eventual patch-up or more often than not, going their separate ways.
sometimes we take things at face value. we see the act of giving of gifts as well, giving. it could very well be a complement of sorts. the subtle references to song titles (and lyrics) may actually very well reflect what the person is trying to say. little things said and done add up to a bigger picture that says hey, maybe this guy is really serious after all. it's not a crush. certainly not an infatuation and definitely not a rebound.
it's genuine love, care, concern and the feeling of wanting to be there always despite the physical distance, despite the fact that there are others involved. finally it's sincerity that i hope wins. material assets aside, one can only offer so much in terms of feelings, and feelings are immeasurable in monetary terms. whatever it is, the feelings will remain because for a fact it is real. over long distances it may be, but sincerity and genuine feelings are a promise. and it's a promise i have no intentions of breaking.
every step, every move, every decision is calculated to maximise its effect. to attack blindly will merely lead to a quick counter. a defensive approach will lead to one being slow in attack and though biding his time, he eventually wilts under the pressure and loses.
it's the same when going in a relationship. the courting phase is a game of wits, feelings and decisions. then comes the phase when the relationship is stable. the football phase. getting to know each other's weaknesses, learning to live with it, giving in to one another and living with each other's quirks. and in the event there's a breakup, not one, but both parties are hurt. perhaps one may deny it but surely both will be hurt. and so the mind games start again, each blaming one another and trying to find a solution to things for an eventual patch-up or more often than not, going their separate ways.
sometimes we take things at face value. we see the act of giving of gifts as well, giving. it could very well be a complement of sorts. the subtle references to song titles (and lyrics) may actually very well reflect what the person is trying to say. little things said and done add up to a bigger picture that says hey, maybe this guy is really serious after all. it's not a crush. certainly not an infatuation and definitely not a rebound.
it's genuine love, care, concern and the feeling of wanting to be there always despite the physical distance, despite the fact that there are others involved. finally it's sincerity that i hope wins. material assets aside, one can only offer so much in terms of feelings, and feelings are immeasurable in monetary terms. whatever it is, the feelings will remain because for a fact it is real. over long distances it may be, but sincerity and genuine feelings are a promise. and it's a promise i have no intentions of breaking.
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